Don’t Betray If You Love. If You Don’t Love, Don’t Give Hope
Romantic relationships are built on respect, as if it were their backbone. Within a sincere love, not betraying comes spontaneously; there is no room for any kind of betrayal or for double entenders or for the hopes built to save the relationship at a precise moment that, in reality, are false.
It is likely that, at times, you have found yourself dealing with people who are only interested in obtaining specific and not long-lasting benefits. Selfishness leads these people to carry out manipulations and give rise to emotions which, later on, collapse accompanied by deep pain.
For this reason, we must always keep these words in mind: if you love, do not betray , and if you do not feel anything, it is better not to give hope . Today we invite you to reflect on this with this article.
Don’t betray the people you love the most
Betrayals don’t just have serious personal and emotional consequences. In fact, they also leave scars and can change part of a person’s character.
- Betrayals destroy the positive and meaningful image we had of our loved one.
- They involve a sudden break in a bond and, in most cases, in a traumatic way, because we usually don’t even notice that they were deceiving us in some way.
- A disappointment can destroy our self-esteem and even make us think that it is the cause of that betrayal. This is something we must never allow. We must never personalize the betrayal, because it is not our responsibility if someone has chosen the lie over respect.
Betrayal – what’s behind it?
Behind the betrayals, there is a very specific personality:
- Those who cheat are unable to feel empathy for the people around them. He prioritizes his needs, his desires, without considering the consequences that certain actions can have.
- To be able to betray, it is necessary to adopt skilful strategies: knowing how to fascinate, offer trust and a certain credibility so as not to arouse suspicion.
- On the other hand, betrayal may be due to the fear of revealing a truth. Let’s look at an example: you no longer love your partner, but you don’t have the courage to tell him and then let the time pass. This is also a betrayal, as you are cultivating emotions and hopes that are false.
- Behind these personalities, there may be emotional immaturity, more extreme selfishness or the irresponsibility of someone who is able to create only fragile and painful bonds.
Beware of false hopes
We have all, in our life, fed false hopes about people or certain aspects that we would have liked to achieve.
Despite this, speaking of hope, we must go a little deeper, to be able to distinguish two important points of view:
The hopes we create ourselves
A priori, giving us hope is not a bad thing. It helps us to motivate ourselves to achieve a concrete goal, to cultivate positive emotions from which new actions and expectations can arise that adapt to reality.
- However, when these expectations are not very realistic, the hopes we create ourselves can lead to a severe downfall.
- There are those who place their hopes in people who are out of their reach or who direct all their dreams to people who have already said no to them very clearly.
False hopes, ones that are neither credible nor logical, are the cause of emotional pain and prevent us from moving forward, improving and opening new doors to find better opportunities.
The hopes that others give us
It is certainly one of the most painful experiences that can be lived. There are those who give rise to emotions, dreams and hopes in us that are not real and, what is worse, is that they are more than aware, at all times, of what they are doing.
- The false hopes that others convince us of are also a very destructive type of betrayal, both in the short and long term.
- This is one of the most common reasons for a breakup in romantic relationships.
“You made me believe that you really loved me”; “You made me live in a sea of falsehood”; “You made me give up important things when, in reality, it was all a lie.”
If you are wondering how to tell if someone is weaving false hopes around you, we can tell you that it is very difficult to spot or find out .
Don’t betray
Despite this, these tips are always worth remembering:
- Pay attention to details and short-term results. If they promise you that, for example, they will leave work early today to be with you for a while, make sure these little promises are honored.
- The “personal investments” and emotional must be balanced. The moment you start giving up too many things just to make the other person happy, then the relationship will drift.
Those who love you know how to form a team and the hopes they give you are true: they can be noticed, touched, perceived and fulfilled in the short and long term. Never forget that.
